Monday, December 19, 2011

All good things come to an end....

All good things come to an end....

as do mediocre things which I feel more describes my blog. When I started this blog it had no direction and it still doesn't. I think that that shows. I don't believe that my quality of my writing is good enough to sustain a good blog at this time in my life. I feel I have written some good things so I will keep this blog up but I am not dedicating anymore time to it. After this there will be no more posts.

I want to send a huge thank you to those of you who did read and enjoy my blog. And do not worry I am not disappearing of the internet. You can follow on Tumblr and/or friend me on Live journal.

Lots of love,

My Tumbr-ZoeDangerAwesome
My LJ-24hourteaparty

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Video of The Day- Vintage Fatty Figure Flattery

Here we are again with Linda Lee Fashions. This time she is here to teach us how to not dress fat. This video is all about looking slim. Showing us that fashion advice for fat women has not changed much over the years. Personally, I think she looks just as fat in every dress which is why I find the concept of figure flattery ridiculous. (more on that in another blog post)

I do like that the model is truly plus size and an older women. And the clothes are figure hugging.

Colors for Slimming


Thursday, August 25, 2011

For just $10.63 (With free shipping!) you can teach your child to hate their body now! (Order now and you can get extra shame for free!)

As a child I was convinced that if I looked different more people would love me. I though if a could just get my hair relaxed and drop fifty pounds my life would magically be better. A new, as of yet unreleased book, Maggie Goes on a Diet puts credibility on that belief.

From what I can tell Maggie Goes on a Diet is the story of a fat girl in middle school. Her asshole classmates make fun of her everyday. Eventually she can not take it anymore so she loses weight. And TA-DAA MAGIC her life is now amazing. All her problems lost along her weight. Everyone who hated fat Maggie just can't wait to befriend skinny Maggie. and she is super healthy and becomes the god of soccer or something. Oh yeah and this is being marketed to girls ages four to eight.

Four to eight.

There is so much wrong with this picture.

It promotes to false belief that the only way to be healthy is to lose weight.

Secondly it tells us that they only thing that counts is how you look on the outside. Kindergarten teachers across America must be banging their head against a wall right now. This book is trying undue all those stories, poems, pictures, and songs that our teachers gave us trying to tell us in is what is on the inside that counts.

The book description on Amazon says that throughout the story Maggie becomes self confident after loosing weight. I take two things away from that. One, the Arthur is saying it is impossible to have self confidence if you are fat, and/or two, if you are fat you don't deserve to have self confidence. Either way the message is bullshit.

Thirdly, this book says bulling is okay. It encourages the belief that there is something wrong with being fat and therefor it is okay to shame people for being fat. Skinny Maggie makes a ton of friends, probably some of the same kids who bullied her. These people did not become her friend for her personality they befriended her because she was skinny.

This is the opposite of what we should be teaching kids. When I was a kid I wish I had known that it is no use being beautiful on the outside if you are rotten on the inside. I wish I had known that anyone who judges me by my appearance is not worth my time. I wish I had known that anyone who befriends someone because of their looks is not a true friend.

Thank Goddess no one gave me this book.

This book angers but does not surprise me. This book is merely a document of very common attitudes and beliefs. I am happy to say this book is being met with a considerable amount of backlash. Just take a look at the tags people put on it on amazon. They include tags such as “Teaching your kids to self hate”, “Waste of a good tree” and “If you hate your daughter.” I agree with all of them.

I also cannot help but notice this book is written by a man for young girls. I could say something about sexism but I just don't have the energy today.

To the the author Paul Kramer I say this: fuck you.

To all the parents thinking of buying this book: don't.

To the kids that get bullied: hang in there and don't give your time to people who don't deserve it.

Tuesday, August 16, 2011

Video of The Day- Vintage Fatties in Swimsuits

So you know how people like to act like fat people just showed up in the past 20 years like the gorram reavers? While that is a load of bullshit. Fat people have been around since the dawn of time. Or at least since the mid 1930s.

In this short news real we see a diving competition just for fat women. I love the women at 18 seconds. When she sees how much she weighs she smiles and claps her hand. Next time I step on a scale I am doing the same.


Sunday, August 7, 2011

Sunday Links

Twirling in Neon- from Feministe

...when you’re fat, to make yourself as small and unnoticeable as possible. Wear black! And grey! And navy blue! I have this habit of leaning off the edge of bus seats so as to prevent any possibility of my belligerent thighs coming into any contact with another person. But the more angry I get about the way fat people are treated, the more unapologetic I insist on being. And it’s been incredible.

Sally from Already Pretty tells us how to be our own stylist.

Pink and Black- from Cupcake's clothes. Why does she always look so amazing?

Sunday, July 24, 2011

Link Love

7 Feminist Take-Aways From the Final Harry Potter Movie- from Ms. Magazine. Just another reason why Harry Potter is amazing.
I am so glad this is here. Its perfect for those interested or concerned with their health, but don't want to deal with the harmful diet talk. Make sure you check out the book as well. Its awesome.

Ten Ways to Keep a Long-Term Character From Being Hated. from io9. For us fiction writers out there.

grammar policing and derailing. from Feminist Slut. As someone who is less than awesome at spelling and even worse with grammer I really  appreciate this.

The Problem is the Clothes

I named my blog The Problem is the Clothes, Not the Body for a reason. It is something I have to remind myself of often.

Body shame and shopping have always walked hand in hand for me. The first time I remember feeling ashamed in a dressing room was when I was eight years old. I was shopping for jeans at Target with my dad. I tried on the jeans and walked out to show my dad how they fit. Without my shirt on. My dad freaked out and I was incredibly confused. I didn't understand was it was so wrong to be seen with out a shirt. (I still don't, really.) What I did understand was that something was wrong with my body.

We receive negative feedback on the way clothes fit our bodies everyday. I've noticed in diet ads a lot of companies use clothes as a motivator. Remember the Sara Rue Jenny Craig commercials? The introduction in that series of ads stated that is wasn't normal to not feel good in a pair of jeans. As Sara lost more weight she was shown trying on dresses and asking for a smaller size.

I believe this is a common attitude. It was for me anyway. I can't even tell you how many times I looked in the mirror and told myself I could buy nice clothes when I lost weight. I felt that clothes didn't look good on me. I've never some across a dress that hides my round belly. Most tops I buy I have to wear a tank top under to avoid cleavage. My thighs touch each other. I have more “problem areas” than I can count.

None of that is my fault. It is not my fault when a skirt I want is too small for me. Or when a ring won't fit on my finger. Or that jeans always give me a muffin top. That dress that didn't fit wasn't made for me. It was made for a fit model and then scaled up or down.

And it doesn't matter that a tight top shows off my back fat rolls. Or that my favorite stripped dress makes me look bigger than I am. Throw out those concepts of figure flattery.

I'm not going to lie. Even though I am at a very good mental place with my body I still hate shopping. I hate that poorly lit tiny inclosed space they call a dressing room. When something I want doesn't fit me it can put me in a stormy mood for hours, if not day.

Sometimes I just have to lean against the wall and remind myself, the problem is the clothes, not my body.

Thursday, July 14, 2011

Goodbye Harry

I don't think there is one thing that had more influence over my childhood than Harry Potter.

Harry Potter is more than a book and movie series. Harry Potter is a world I could spend my whole life in.

I can close my eyes and I am at Honey dukes. Or the Great Hall. Or the Ministry.

Harry Potter is what I played on the playground, fighting with my friends over who got to be Harry.

I do not read about Hermione Granger, I know Hermione Granger. And I know Dudley and Draco because I know what it is like to be bullied.

Harry Potter is a thing that brings my family closer together. The first four books were read to me by my father. A few months ago I gave the first book to my nine year old brother. He is in the middle of the seventh book now. Whenever he reads something funny he comes to knock on my bedroom door and tell me about it.

Harry, Ron, and Hermione are the people I grew up with. When I didn't have friends, I had them and their story.

Harry Potter is story I have read a dozen times, so much that I have already worn though a whole set of book and had to buy new ones.

Harry Potter is the story that inspired me to write. My first story was a Harry Potter fan fiction.

Harry Potter is the thing that created friendships.

The end of Harry Potter is more than the end of a series, it is the end of a long chapter in my life. Tonight I am going to go to a theater with my best friend , surrounded by annoying fan girls. (Which I am one of) and at midnight I am going to see the end of my childhood. I am going to laugh and I am going to cry. And I am going to know my life will never be the same.

Harry Potter is one of the best things to have ever happened to me.

Jo, I thank you so much for this gift you have given us.

Now I am going to cry in the shower.

Sunday, May 1, 2011

Have some links

Sorry for my lack of posting! I have been busy with school work. Have some links.

Pocket Rocket Fashion: The Fat Gal's Shopping Manifesto

Spanx Will Not Save the World
It says "Spanx started with $5000 and a dream –- to make the world a better place…one butt at a time!"

Big fat fail over here — my world is a better place when I can freaking breathe. My world is a better place when someone is not trying to convince me that making myself into a human sausage will make the world a better place.
Two Whole Cakes: The lady is a tramp: On getting my bits touched by the TSA first scan was a wash, as it seems I have a hard time raising my hands in the air without also waving them like I just don’t care, and so during the first go-round I did a little impromptu dance, which blurred the results. “PLEASE STAND STILL, MA’AM,”

Definatalie: Hospital Drawings. Amazing

Cupcakes Clothes: New Hair. I love how she dresses.

The Rotund: All food Choices Are Vaild
It’s not okay for other people to judge my food choices – not simply because I’m fat or because I have a mental illness, but because it’s none of their damn business and they lack sufficient data to draw any sort of meaningful (much less correct) conclusion. Similarly, no matter what the lifestyle of a random person, I don’t get to judge their food choices; I don’t know them and I’m not going to run around coming to half-baked conclusions.

Already Pretty: The Collector Mentality
 I still believe that some folks – myself included – can enjoy and effectively utilize large and varied wardrobes.